No matter where you might work it's more often than not that you are going to end up working with at least one if not a couple of people that no matter what you try to do they just seem to be extremely hard to work with. There could be a million reasons why they might be difficult to get a long with but it really isn't your job to sit down and try to figure out why.
It is however; your job to try and be sure that your own behavior and actions are controlled no matter how they act or you could end up on a job search if it's you that your boss ends up singling out.
If you do work with someone that is extremely hard to work with, it is vital that you try not to get wrapped up in the way they interact on the job. A lot of times these are the kind of people who love to manipulate others and get pleasure out of being a passive aggressive type of personality.
For some reason they get pleasure out of it and it's not your job to try and change them. It's their issue not yours. Don't give into temptation to start acting like them because it's really not going to get you anywhere.
Whatever you do, don't lower your own standards of how you behave. No matter how they act you need to remember that you must at all time remain professional in your conduct. You can't let this type of person get in the way of your work so you must teach yourself to remain focused on your job and not on the behavior of an annoying co-employee.
Don't let them draw you into a shouting match, do your best to keep your self-control and try to get the conversation turned back around to a positive and productive one, always remain calm, no matter what. When you can do this, this will only help to build more respect for you from other employees you work with. Remember, no matter what their problems will be, it's your behavior is what's being judged by your employer.
It's really important that when you are dealing with a manipulative co-worker that you keep written notes of any conversations or situations that you feel are important and that might be useful in your own defense should you ever need to take it to your supervisor. This way, if you have documentation of the times where they have tried to manipulate you or others, they will not be able to manipulate the situation when it ends up being brought up in front of your boss.
The most important thing you must remember to stay professional at all times and always be in control of how you react to any situation that might arise in your office. You need to remember if you allow yourself to get in the middle of a bad situation at work it's going to be the way you behaved and conducted yourself that you will be held accountable for, not the way the other person's behavior.